CW: This episode contains brief mentions of SA and DV.

@Markrosenfeld is a relationship coach who helps women build healthy romantic relationships. Relationship coaching involves a professional helping couples or individuals overcome challenges in their romantic or personal relationships. Coaches use active listening, communication techniques, and empathy to deepen understanding of partners' needs, build trust, and create emotional connections. These coaches aid in trust-building, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and personal growth. It is helpful for couples looking to improve their relationship or individuals seeking to build healthier relationships in the future. In relationship coaching, it’s important to explore a client’s traumas and how they might show up in their relationships. Mark talks in-depth about managing expectations of others, how to communicate needs versus wants, why men cheat, and more.

1-1 coaching: https://makehimyours.com.au/coaching/work-with-mark/
Mark’s book: https://www.makehimyoursbook.com/book1


00:00 Introduction
01:28 Trauma & dating
06:00 3 basic emotional needs
10:45 Importance of being heard
14:15 Women’s needs have changed
17:21 Trauma memory
21:30 Can you love someone if you don’t love yourself?
23:15 How do you work through trauma?
26:25 Post-traumatic growth
30:45 Measure a person based on their worst day
33:00 Stakes with romantic relationships
37:20 How grief impacts relationships
39:05 Cheating
43:30 “Relationships don’t last”
48:20 Interdependence & strong relationships
53:30 Where do you start?
56:15 Ignoring intuition
57:45 Ego/Pain of seeing an ex with someone new
1:00:50 Discussing past relationships
1:11:00 Vulnerability & consistency
1:13:30 Breakup behavior
1:18:00 How to communicate needs versus wants
1:26:30 Positive feedback
1:30:15 Imperfection leads to connection
1:31:00 Mark’s work