Today I am bringing up the psychological and social or psychosocial hazard of codependency. Did you know that daily, there are six main types of dangers of which we are to be cautious? The six classes are biological, chemical, physical, safety, ergonomic, and psychosocial. 

The hazard of codependency can harm personal relationships, mental health, or wellbeing. Codependency is in various places, such as home, work, or institution. Relational stress, depression, anxiety, anger, fear, power, or control, are just a few aspects of the psychosocial hazards of codependency.

Codependency Hazards
Codependent persons draw like a magnet towards toxic people. Toxic people are manipulative, judgmental, irresponsible, inconsistent, never apologize, make you prove yourself, make you defend yourself, disinterested in you, unsupportive, and uncaring. I am sure you can add to this shortlist based on a toxic person with whom you may be familiar.

Most codependents tend to perceive themselves as having little worth, so their self-esteem is low. They require others to build up their sense of value. Low self-esteem leads them to not only be drawn towards toxic people but also endure a one-sided relationship far better and longer than most.  

Because of a strong need to please, codependents will defer their needs in giving to their toxic partner. They may say to themselves, "I'm so undeserving, he needs it more than I do." Or, the codependent may say, "It's not worth the conflict and pain, just let her have what she wants."

We all need to know where we stand in relationships. The codependent will measure their value concerning the toxic person's responses to fixing and pleasing. Of course, the toxic person is never fixable by others and is never fully satisfied. Therefore, the more the codependent works at fixing and delighting, the worse they will feel about themselves.

Most toxic partners become easily angered and often seek retribution when their standards are not being met by the codependent. What follows is the codependent feeling like they are going crazy as anxiety, depression, and illness increase.

Where Does Codependency Originate?
Codependency comes out of the sum of the codependent's experiences. People are not born as codependents; they learn codependency. With most things that we learn, the seeds that carry the bitter fruit of codependency implanted early in life. 

Not only are the seeds planted early, but they also grow through a person's lifetime. Seeds of childhood neglect, rejection, abandonment, abuse, or trauma; Seeds of toxic boyfriends or girlfriends; Seeds of a toxic husband, wife, partner, brother, sister, or other close family members. After all, we are the sum of our experiences. . .

Empowering Truths
In Jesus Christ, Messiah, I will not be in fear or distress when I trust in GOD’s strength and timing to help me. —see Isaiah 41:10
. . . I know my love for God will compel me to fulfill HIS reason for my life. —see Romans 8:28
. . . I will be able to do right in times of trouble. —see Proverbs 18:10
. . . I will not be anxious or worrisome when appealing to GOD in prayer and looking for HIS open doors. —see Philippians 4:6-7; Revelation 3:8
“I know your choices. Recognize that I have opened before you a door for your healing, which no one can shut. I know you are exhausted, but you have not given up. You have lived in harmony with my methods and have not rejected my character of love.” (Revelation 3:8 Remedy Bible)
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Additional Resources & Links:
“Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Beattie | https://melodybeattie.com/books/codep...

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org | (800) 273-8255

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