Joanna's book Unveiling The Narcissist is available via www.joannakujath.com which offers more details about the nature of controlling relationships.

Guide to dealing with narcissists and controlling people is an in depth discussion of how to cope with people who demonstrate they have issues with control. Its often difficult to decide how destructive someones issue with control is. We often spend too much time being conflicted, wondering what ventures into the pathological. We go back and forth deciphering whats "normal" and whats "abnormal".. and become this persons counselor. We dedicate years of our life falsely assuming we can change them, not knowing perhaps when our helping becomes a "nice" way of controlling the relationship.