0:00 - 7:57 Introduction
7:58 - 14:46 The Origins of the Term, "Narcissism"
14:47 - 31:17 What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Why do we Associate it with Abuse?
31:18 - 54:16 Why It's Risky To Talk About Narcissistic Abuse & How the Victim-Blaming Affected Rachel Oates
54:17 - 58:20 Flushing Out Toxicity & Healing from Trauma
58:21 - 1:15:17 My Experience with a Loved One That Turned Out to be Abusive
1:15:18 - 1:20:12 Closing Thoughts

Suicide Hotlines For the Kind Souls that Need Them:
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Video clips used from these channels:
@Rachel Oates
@READY TO GLARE
@Screen Bites

Video clips used from the following media;
Cinderella (1950)
Bridesmaids (2011)
Batman Beyond: Return of the Joker (2000)
Batman: The Animated Series Season 2: Episode 7: “Harlequinade”

Rachel Oates’s Videos:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9etNuXD0vTo&t=39s (Narcissistic Abuse)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10Wx2sPViwE&t=2s (The Problem With #NotAllMen)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gu6OwyF5tf8 ([REUPLOAD] Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard | The Full Story of a Toxic Relationship & Abuse)

Sources and Further Reading:
https://www.worldhistory.org/Narcissus/
https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210414-why-some-narcissists-actually-hate-themselves
https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2013/08/01/2013-18552/change-in-terminology-mental-retardation-to-intellectual-disability
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-reasons-why-you-should-_2_b_2638390
https://ncadv.org/signs-of-abuse
https://www.thehotline.org/resources/narcissism-and-abuse/
https://www.liverpoolmuseums.org.uk/artifact/echo-and-narcissus
https://www.psychalive.org/narcissistic-relationships/
https://www.theoi.com/Heros/Narkissos.html
https://letstalkstigma.org/stigma-impacts-domestic-violence-survivors/
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/legal-rights/courts-and-mental-health/at-your-trial/#CanIUseMyMentalHealthAsADefence
https://thecenteroflifecounseling.com/narcissism-is-not-abusive-abuse-is-abusive/
https://www.newleafcounselinggroup.com/post/harmful-myth-of-narcissistic-abuse-in-domestic-violence
https://themighty.com/2019/07/borderline-personality-disorder-excuse/
https://abcnews.go.com/US/disturbing-things-learned-today-sandy-hook-shooter-adam/story?id=27087140
https://time.com/19957/adam-lanzas-violence-wasnt-typical-of-aspergers/
https://today.oregonstate.edu/news/narcissists-don%E2%80%99t-learn-their-mistakes-because-they-don%E2%80%99t-think-they-make-any-study-shows
https://www.facebook.com/JohnMarkGreenPoetry/photos/3347341108678560
https://www.inannasanctuary.com/trauma-cycle
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201807/what-makes-some-narcissists-mean-competitive-and-jealous
https://www.thehealthy.com/family/relationships/narcissistic-abuse-syndrome/
https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/the-difference-between-borderline-personality-and-narcissism-symptoms-and-treatment/
https://www.therapyinbeverlyhills.com/7-tips-for-dating-someone-with-abandonment-issues/
https://www.ywcaneks.org/blog/2020/12/04/why-survivors-dont-call-the-police/
http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/avoiding-victim-blaming/
https://www.thenextchapter.org.uk/blog/cycle-of-abuse
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist
https://safespeaks.org/2020/07/28/stop-stigma-surrounding-domestic-violence-learn-about-it-and-support-victims/
https://www.cambs.police.uk/information-and-services/Domestic-abuse/Clares-law
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD/comments/r332ad/how_do_you_deal_with_the_fact_that_there_will/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD/comments/raypw7/the_notsoobvious_facets_of_grandiosity_and/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/r43g84/i_broke_up_with_her_and_its_fucking_with_me/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/r5rdj5/some_of_the_lessons_i_learned_from_a_year_of/
https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeNewFriendsHere/comments/qtqgtt/some_people_will_ghost_for_no_reason_and_some/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35jVsyWFss4 (Narcissus and Echo Uploaded by Rose Ann Pamittan)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_dr9y41J38 (Abused By My Girlfriend: The Teenage Romance That Descended Into Terrible Violence by BBC Three)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arJLy3hX1E8 (The psychology of narcissism - W. Keith Campbell by TED-Ed)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_Dqczmp8Kc (8 Signs You Are Dealing with Narcissistic Abuse by Psych2Go)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LiWgnJZOr4 (10 Signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-MBIHsyNCg (The #1 Abuse Tactic Used By Narcissists by The Enlightened Target)

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