When something bad happens to your partner, does it feel like it’s happening to you, too?

Are you compelled to fix what you see as the ‘problems’ in their life?

Do you find areas in which they can improve to help them become ‘better’?

Do you feel like it is your job to prevent them from getting into bad situations?

If you are nodding your head, you might be in a codependent relationship.

In this episode, I break down what codependency is and give you powerful questions you can answer to gain clarity about your codependent behaviors (which is the first step to healing).

*Time Stamps*
0:00 - Introduction
2:23 - What is codependency?
5:19 - Are your partner's needs more important?
6:31 - Is it hard to express your needs?
7:27 - Do you over-give?
8:41 - Do you enable others?
9:27 - Is it difficult to separate your identity from them?
11:03 - Are you afraid of being abandoned or rejected?
11:33 - Do you rely on validation?
12:37 - Can you live without the other person?
13:23 - What causes codependent behavior?
14:43 - Attracting people you can help

*If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos*
https://youtu.be/cOVrxtWnzBw - Emotional Labor: How to STOP doing all the work!
https://youtu.be/UFoTrJ6PjTc - How to Gently Heal Your Codependent Relationship
https://youtu.be/q_QFxAZVW9A - The Antidote to Overgiving (Strategies Inside)
https://youtu.be/GrZ15pV9_Zk - Are You Codependent or Caring?
https://youtu.be/42z1JzZbKp8 - Codependent? How to Own Your Own Happiness

*Grab the free guide for this episode here:* https://www.terricole.com/9-signs-in-a-codependent-relationship-guide

*About Terri Cole*
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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*Resources to Check out*
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